Ashley Thompson | Alumni Care Coordinator
When I first got sober, I desperately wanted to rebuild my relationships. I made amends to my family members as guided by my sponsor. But I wondered what came next. I had to back up those amends by my actions, which was not an overnight matter by any means, and I didn’t know what else to do to show I was changing other than to stay sober.
Looking back, I now see how much more I did.
The essential thing I started with was calling my grandparents to see how they were doing and not to ask them for something. I also didn’t react when my grandfather would lecture me. I had to remember that my poor past choices were not forgotten.
Instead of always taking from my family as I had in the past, I started giving.
Once I was more financially stable, this sometimes meant buying them Christmas presents or birthday cards. In reality, it didn’t matter if I bought them something nice or sent them a homemade card. What mattered was I thought about somebody besides myself and showed them I was thinking about them.
Over the years, just showing my family that I valued and remembered them built beautiful relationships.
Then when my dad passed away a couple of years ago, I could fly home and support my family. The old me would have made it all about me and how I was feeling. This spiritually connected version tried to be there for my family in any way I could.
The next thing I knew, my family started calling me for advice and support.
The first time my mom called me for advice, I almost had a heart attack! It hit me how much I had grown and how much my family relationships had grown. A little action like a phone call and choosing better decisions changed everything for my family and me.
Giving a gift isn’t about worldly things.
It’s about saying I’m thinking about you and want to do something nice. If you don’t have money, that’s fine. As I said, make a card, or call and tell them you love them.
I stopped being selfish, and over time, that was just as crucial as being sober. Being sober alone would have never given me the beautiful relationships I have with friends and family today.
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